At first it seemed like eHarmony might be different. It seemed like people there were a bit more serious about the whole dating "thing" and were less likely to shop for a hot photo like Nerve or, to a lesser extent, Match. I think I might be mistaken.

See, eHarmony works a bit differently. Matches are "pushed" to you and you choose to either pursue communication (closed communication at first via their own criteria) or reject the person before any contact takes place.

I wrote what I think to be a fun, enticing profile. Why? Because I'm a good guy, damn it. I refuse to believe otherwise. But then there's this question and answer combo on my profile -

7. Other than your appearance, what is the first thing that people notice about you?

Well, this is where I should mention that I'm in a wheelchair. But it's not a big deal, frankly (if that makes sense). While people certainly notice that first they quickly forget about it. In other words, it doesn't define me.

A fine, honest answer don't you think? Well, when rejecting a match you must specify a reason. They give you about 20 pat responses dealing with things like pursuing another relationship, physical distance and difference in beliefs. Mine, however, have almost all been of one variety... Other.

I can read between the lines. I know what that means.